I've previously written a long post about being depressed and I don't want to repeat myself. However, depression is a subject that I think needs to be mentioned more often. After Robin Williams died everyone seemed to care about the importance of talking about depression but as I feared, that has all gone and with that gone we tend to forget that a smile on someone's face doesn't mean that person is happy.
I know many people that are suffering from depression and I know many people that have been hiding it until I admitted my depression to them. I'm not saying that we always need to tell everyone but there shouldn't be an issue if you tell your friends that you have some form of problem that you might need support and help for.
Personally my depression has been an issue I've always been scared of dealing with. I've denied medication, I've denied help from a psychologist and what's worse of all, I haven't been willing to help myself. I am fully aware of that people react differently when they are depressed but I tend to see a pattern in it. When someone is depressed they always have one thing that they blame. I usually blame a person. There's always someone who has done something to make me as upset as I am. It has taken me about 15 years to realise that I can keep blaming people or I can actually deal with the real problem; I've got problems that I need to learn to cope with. These problems will exist regardless who is in my life and who isn't. Blaming other people will only make it worse since there is no way you will be able to change that person. The only one you can change is yourself.
This contradicts what we've been told as kids. We shouldn't change for someone else. Changing for someone else is letting them have the power over you which is the last thing we would want. But what you can do is changing the way you react to other people's behavior. If someone annoys you then let it go. If they won't change then letting it annoy you is just going to make things worse.
Sometimes the only way to move forward is to accept that blaming something else will never make you happy. It's no shame in admitting that you have to change or that it might be difficult for you to handle some situations. The moment you realise that it will be easier to deal with life and it will definitely make it easier for you to get out of depression because you will be focusing on the most important thing in life; yourself.
I know many people that are suffering from depression and I know many people that have been hiding it until I admitted my depression to them. I'm not saying that we always need to tell everyone but there shouldn't be an issue if you tell your friends that you have some form of problem that you might need support and help for.
Personally my depression has been an issue I've always been scared of dealing with. I've denied medication, I've denied help from a psychologist and what's worse of all, I haven't been willing to help myself. I am fully aware of that people react differently when they are depressed but I tend to see a pattern in it. When someone is depressed they always have one thing that they blame. I usually blame a person. There's always someone who has done something to make me as upset as I am. It has taken me about 15 years to realise that I can keep blaming people or I can actually deal with the real problem; I've got problems that I need to learn to cope with. These problems will exist regardless who is in my life and who isn't. Blaming other people will only make it worse since there is no way you will be able to change that person. The only one you can change is yourself.
This contradicts what we've been told as kids. We shouldn't change for someone else. Changing for someone else is letting them have the power over you which is the last thing we would want. But what you can do is changing the way you react to other people's behavior. If someone annoys you then let it go. If they won't change then letting it annoy you is just going to make things worse.
Sometimes the only way to move forward is to accept that blaming something else will never make you happy. It's no shame in admitting that you have to change or that it might be difficult for you to handle some situations. The moment you realise that it will be easier to deal with life and it will definitely make it easier for you to get out of depression because you will be focusing on the most important thing in life; yourself.
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