We all have friends, or at least I would like to think we do. In many cases we don't have the option to pick the people around us and we simply have to befriend the ones most similar to us or the ones we can easier get along with. But the older we get, the more options we have. Partly because we meet more people but we also learn how to say goodbye to the people that aren't worth having in our lives. This might not be because we don't care, it could simply be because they don't care.
But in my life so far I've learnt a few things, there are ways to tell that you've actually picked great friends and I thought I should share them with you. Obviously these things are only my own opinion and you might disagree with me completely but hey ho, let's go.
1. They have seen you at your worst but that hasn't scared them away. In many cases it's even the opposite, it has brought you closer. This might mean they've seen you cry after a break up or you having the flu. It doesn't matter because they know that these things are just a passing point and that's the way we develop.
2. You feel ok with being around them without talking. Many people talk when they are nervous but if you have friends you are safe with you might not want to talk all the time. That doesn't mean you have run out of things to say. You might simply want company without having to talk.
3. You can go days, even months without talking. This could be due to several different reasons as busy lifestyles, distance etc. Whatever reason it is, it's usually a valid reason if you both are aware of it. Talking less to people doesn't make them worse friends. It makes it difficult to keep track of what's going on but if you are great friends you can always catch up and talk about anything once you actually talk.
4. They can make you laugh even when you feel like there is no reason to. In life we have times when we just want to be upset or angry. Great friends respect that but they are also able to make you see the funny side of life. They might not try to cheer you up on purpose but because they know you they manage to put a smile on your face by simply being themselves.
5. Your friends aren't afraid to ask you for advice. They want to know your opinion because they value what you think.
6. They tell you the truth. It might not always be want you want to hear but they are not afraid of saying it anyway because they know it's for your best to know the truth and if it hurts they will be there to help you through it.
These are just a few signs that your friends are great friends. If you're lucky enough to find these type of friends you'll know they are for life. Value their friendship and appreciate what they are giving you because that kind of friendship is rare to find.
But in my life so far I've learnt a few things, there are ways to tell that you've actually picked great friends and I thought I should share them with you. Obviously these things are only my own opinion and you might disagree with me completely but hey ho, let's go.
1. They have seen you at your worst but that hasn't scared them away. In many cases it's even the opposite, it has brought you closer. This might mean they've seen you cry after a break up or you having the flu. It doesn't matter because they know that these things are just a passing point and that's the way we develop.
2. You feel ok with being around them without talking. Many people talk when they are nervous but if you have friends you are safe with you might not want to talk all the time. That doesn't mean you have run out of things to say. You might simply want company without having to talk.
3. You can go days, even months without talking. This could be due to several different reasons as busy lifestyles, distance etc. Whatever reason it is, it's usually a valid reason if you both are aware of it. Talking less to people doesn't make them worse friends. It makes it difficult to keep track of what's going on but if you are great friends you can always catch up and talk about anything once you actually talk.
4. They can make you laugh even when you feel like there is no reason to. In life we have times when we just want to be upset or angry. Great friends respect that but they are also able to make you see the funny side of life. They might not try to cheer you up on purpose but because they know you they manage to put a smile on your face by simply being themselves.
5. Your friends aren't afraid to ask you for advice. They want to know your opinion because they value what you think.
6. They tell you the truth. It might not always be want you want to hear but they are not afraid of saying it anyway because they know it's for your best to know the truth and if it hurts they will be there to help you through it.
These are just a few signs that your friends are great friends. If you're lucky enough to find these type of friends you'll know they are for life. Value their friendship and appreciate what they are giving you because that kind of friendship is rare to find.
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