After living with depression for many years and lately experiencing a difficult time I have noticed that there are different type of people you meet.
1. Some people simply can't understand what it means by being depressed. They tend to think of it as someone just having a bad day when in fact someone who is depressed is very likely to feel like they have a bad life. It's completely understandable that it is hard to grasp the concept of a mental illness that causes so much problem that it might even cause physical pain. I guess it's like everything in life; if you haven't experienced it you won't know how it feels like.
2. Some people are good at adjusting to the person with depression and understand the concept even though they won't know how it actually feels like. These people are the ones that will listen to you when you need to talk but won't treat you any differently or be worried what they do will trigger your depression. They know that when you have a smile on your face and laugh it's better to let you instead of questioning it.
3. Then there are the ones that think they understand and want to be there for you all the time which is nice in a way but it also makes you think about your depression constantly. They think that you talking about everything will make life better when in fact you sometimes might just move on from it without thinking about it too much.
4. Then there's the people I hate to admit I've met many times; the ones that can't handle it at all and doesn't realise that depression is not the personality, it's just something that the person is going through but that it will get better. These are often the ones that stop being friends with you when you go through depression due to the negative energy they receive and they feel uncomfortable knowing that they sometimes might trigger those bad feelings in you.
5. Lastly, there's the people that have gone through similar things and therefore can relate to you. They can teach you tricks how to deal with depression and they also gives you an opportunity to move forward. These people are not necessarily better people than any of the ones above, they simply understand what depression is and how it can change you which means that they stay by your side even through the hardest days.
All these people are people that can give someone who is depressed a lot of happiness and just because they deal with depression in different ways it doesn't mean they won't help you grow. My experience is that all these people make you grow stronger and learn about yourself and therefore it's important to have all of them in your life even if that means some of them might disappear in the end.
1. Some people simply can't understand what it means by being depressed. They tend to think of it as someone just having a bad day when in fact someone who is depressed is very likely to feel like they have a bad life. It's completely understandable that it is hard to grasp the concept of a mental illness that causes so much problem that it might even cause physical pain. I guess it's like everything in life; if you haven't experienced it you won't know how it feels like.
2. Some people are good at adjusting to the person with depression and understand the concept even though they won't know how it actually feels like. These people are the ones that will listen to you when you need to talk but won't treat you any differently or be worried what they do will trigger your depression. They know that when you have a smile on your face and laugh it's better to let you instead of questioning it.
3. Then there are the ones that think they understand and want to be there for you all the time which is nice in a way but it also makes you think about your depression constantly. They think that you talking about everything will make life better when in fact you sometimes might just move on from it without thinking about it too much.
4. Then there's the people I hate to admit I've met many times; the ones that can't handle it at all and doesn't realise that depression is not the personality, it's just something that the person is going through but that it will get better. These are often the ones that stop being friends with you when you go through depression due to the negative energy they receive and they feel uncomfortable knowing that they sometimes might trigger those bad feelings in you.
5. Lastly, there's the people that have gone through similar things and therefore can relate to you. They can teach you tricks how to deal with depression and they also gives you an opportunity to move forward. These people are not necessarily better people than any of the ones above, they simply understand what depression is and how it can change you which means that they stay by your side even through the hardest days.
All these people are people that can give someone who is depressed a lot of happiness and just because they deal with depression in different ways it doesn't mean they won't help you grow. My experience is that all these people make you grow stronger and learn about yourself and therefore it's important to have all of them in your life even if that means some of them might disappear in the end.
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