When we are kids most of us looked up to someone. Many of us looked up to our camp counselor or a boy in the 5th grade whilst being in 1st. This often develops to crushes on these people, sweet innocent crushes, that we know will never lead to anything but we still wish for it. For most of us these crushes disappears quickly and we move on to adore the newest boy band but some people hold on to their crush and believe it is real and that they actually have a chance. I have friends that keep on writing letters to their celebrity crush until they actually answer and friends that know everything about their crush. But why do we actually feel these things for people we've never met?
That question is difficult to answer since everyone feels differently. Personally, I think that we all like the chase, whether it is someone we know or someone famous. It's the thrill to achieve something and be liked by someone that so many other people want. This is why I believe that we'll never grow out of these celebrity crushes. They are desirable and look perfect. What we don't realise is that the picture we see of them is not the whole picture. The magazines don't let you get to know the real person and we can't therefore actually fall in love with these people. That is why I wonder how you can get so obsessed with a famous person that you actually want to get to know them or at least make sure they know who you are just to get a few seconds of attention from them.
When asking one of my friends how come she was so obsessed the answer was simple. "I am not obsessed, I know him and he is a wonderful person that is why I like him. What she didn't realise was that before she knew him she seeked his attention anyways. When she finally met him she wouldn't change her mind because she already had made up her mind. He was going to be great and nothing could change that.
We build up this picture of someone in our head which makes us like them in a way that we wouldn't like someone we knew. Recently I've been having a crush on Tom from McFly. Not because I know him and want to marry him, but simply because he wrote a good wedding speech and made me listen to McFly, something I haven't done for years. I don't know him or much about him but I still have my stupid celebrity crush on him and I'm not ashamed of admitting it. On of my housemates pointed out that I behave like a teenage girl. That might be true but I think that we will never grow up from having these crushes. The famous person we fancy symbolises something desirable, something we all want but we know we can't have. It's not about actually having them but it's the thought of trying to get an insight on someone else's life. Someone who lives a life way more exotic than yours.
We shouldn't be ashamed of having these crushes but we need to realise that they are not suppose to last. They are simply a part of your life that comes and goes. It is unhealthy to be obsessed with someone to the extent that your life evolves around him. Don't stop liking a boy band or a famous person, that would take away a part of the culture around celebrities but know your limit. We all have been swooning over someone famous although not everyone wants to admit it but sometimes please burst that bubble. Their lives aren't more special than our lives. They just happen to be known by more people. That doesn't mean the know more people and that they are worth your every awake second, after all, they won't be able to give you more than just a few seconds of their own.
That question is difficult to answer since everyone feels differently. Personally, I think that we all like the chase, whether it is someone we know or someone famous. It's the thrill to achieve something and be liked by someone that so many other people want. This is why I believe that we'll never grow out of these celebrity crushes. They are desirable and look perfect. What we don't realise is that the picture we see of them is not the whole picture. The magazines don't let you get to know the real person and we can't therefore actually fall in love with these people. That is why I wonder how you can get so obsessed with a famous person that you actually want to get to know them or at least make sure they know who you are just to get a few seconds of attention from them.
When asking one of my friends how come she was so obsessed the answer was simple. "I am not obsessed, I know him and he is a wonderful person that is why I like him. What she didn't realise was that before she knew him she seeked his attention anyways. When she finally met him she wouldn't change her mind because she already had made up her mind. He was going to be great and nothing could change that.
We build up this picture of someone in our head which makes us like them in a way that we wouldn't like someone we knew. Recently I've been having a crush on Tom from McFly. Not because I know him and want to marry him, but simply because he wrote a good wedding speech and made me listen to McFly, something I haven't done for years. I don't know him or much about him but I still have my stupid celebrity crush on him and I'm not ashamed of admitting it. On of my housemates pointed out that I behave like a teenage girl. That might be true but I think that we will never grow up from having these crushes. The famous person we fancy symbolises something desirable, something we all want but we know we can't have. It's not about actually having them but it's the thought of trying to get an insight on someone else's life. Someone who lives a life way more exotic than yours.
We shouldn't be ashamed of having these crushes but we need to realise that they are not suppose to last. They are simply a part of your life that comes and goes. It is unhealthy to be obsessed with someone to the extent that your life evolves around him. Don't stop liking a boy band or a famous person, that would take away a part of the culture around celebrities but know your limit. We all have been swooning over someone famous although not everyone wants to admit it but sometimes please burst that bubble. Their lives aren't more special than our lives. They just happen to be known by more people. That doesn't mean the know more people and that they are worth your every awake second, after all, they won't be able to give you more than just a few seconds of their own.
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