Living with people can be frustrating sometimes. You see each other all the time and even though you might have your own room there is not much privacy. People hear when you come home, leave, if you're on the phone and even where in your room you are. This creates a atmosphere when people often have the need to know everything that is going on in your housemates lives. It's inevitable not to.
The problem isn't knowing things about everyone, the problem starts when you want your privacy and therefore choose not to tell your housemates what you are doing. We have our right to privacy but because housemates know so much about each other it can get to the point when rumours are created.
Rumours usually start of as a joke, two people making up stupid things and then choose to share it with other people. What most people don't think about is that this can actually hurt the person you are gossiping about. It doesn't just affect that person, it affects other people too.
There are times when you feel like you need to share something with a friend but you always have to think before you do that. Saying something about someone else to feel better might help at that moment but when it reaches that person you will be stuck in a defenseless situation.
I was recently in the situation where I spread a rumour which lead to a big fight with my friend. It doesn't matter if the rumour was true or not, it hurt him and I was really close to lose a good friend. I learnt from that time that if you have a problem with someone or want to know something about someone ask him. If that person answer that is it none of your business, accept it. Everyone has the right to have secrets, if we didn't our lives would probably be really boring.
The problem isn't knowing things about everyone, the problem starts when you want your privacy and therefore choose not to tell your housemates what you are doing. We have our right to privacy but because housemates know so much about each other it can get to the point when rumours are created.
Rumours usually start of as a joke, two people making up stupid things and then choose to share it with other people. What most people don't think about is that this can actually hurt the person you are gossiping about. It doesn't just affect that person, it affects other people too.
There are times when you feel like you need to share something with a friend but you always have to think before you do that. Saying something about someone else to feel better might help at that moment but when it reaches that person you will be stuck in a defenseless situation.
I was recently in the situation where I spread a rumour which lead to a big fight with my friend. It doesn't matter if the rumour was true or not, it hurt him and I was really close to lose a good friend. I learnt from that time that if you have a problem with someone or want to know something about someone ask him. If that person answer that is it none of your business, accept it. Everyone has the right to have secrets, if we didn't our lives would probably be really boring.
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