Honesty

It is really easy to say things to other people but it is also easy to say it without meaning it. We all had this moment when someone asks you what you think about her/his new shirt and you don't like it but decide that a white lie never hurt anyone. That is a problem. We are too afraid of hurting someone or, even worse, getting hurt. This leads to us lying to other people instead of trying to be honest. By lying to other people you might even end up lying to yourself. You can't always satisfy the people around you and sometimes it is better for them to actually here what you think.

By being honest you might end up having people disliking you but who would want a friend who is two-faced and doesn't actually like you. However, there is a line between being honest and being rude. Being honest is talking to the person you have a problem with so you can sort it out and move on. Being rude is telling that person you don't like him without giving him a chance to change or explain himself. Even though someone walking up to someone and tell them you have a problem with something they do might hurt them in the end you might be able to learn to live with each others differences and become friends.

We often speak before thinking and that is what hurts people not being honest itself. There are always a nice way to put it and it is important to understand the value of the choice of words. It makes a big different and by choosing words carefully you can save yourself from hurting someone.
Sometimes you might have to hear something that doesn't please you but that is what makes you stronger. If we always walked around happy we wouldn't know what happiness was. Sometimes we just need to get a bit hurt. We shoulnd't speak without thinking but when we do at least we say what comes to our mind. I'm not saying that we should walk around and say whatever we think but we should at least be honest to each other. If you feel something, express it. Don't go around and think that people can read your mind, it's impossible. If you are angry at someone, tell them why. By doing that we can probably avoid a lot of problems and also live in a world where people actually know what's going on in other peoples lives. If you don't mean what you say, keep it to yourself.